Here’s one small but powerful shift in perspective that will change your entire marriage.  Start asking God to help you love the way He describes love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5, but especially focusing on that little section in the middle of verse 5 where the Bible says this about love….”it is not self-seeking…”  Mic drop.

Everything changes when I stop focusing on self!  When I start asking God how I can be a blessing to my husband, and how I can reflect His love and grace to my husband, then everything starts to change.  I no longer keep a record of wrongs.  I no longer get easily frustrated and angry.  Disappointment no longer consumes my thoughts.  I’m not easily offended.

When I stop focusing on self, I can even approach sinful patterns in my husband with new boldness because I want the best for HIM, not just me.  I can boldly and firmly request that he gets help, but because I’m not self-focused, I can make those requests respectfully and in love.

I actually bought myself a stainless steel bracelet a while ago and had it engraved to say these words, “It’s not about me”.  I never take it off.  I wear it 24/7.  I need that constant reminder.  How about you?

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