I became very familiar with deep grief back in the fall of 2021. That’s when I unexpectedly lost my amazing husband Raul to the monster of Covid. I had never experienced that kind of gut-wrenching grief before. It was debilitating. In a single moment, my world tipped upside down. I lost my daily companion, my ministry partner, and the man who worked relentlessly to make me feel cherished. What a loss! It took me quite a few months to get my equilibrium back, but God graciously led me out of the valley of deep grief and into a new chapter of life. The source of your grief may be different than mine. Perhaps you lost a parent, or maybe your marriage ended. We will all experience grief at some point. The question is how do we navigate through it and come out intact on the other side? Allow me to share 3 big things I learned along my journey.
- Grief is handled differently by everyone and there is no “right” way to grieve. Some people will mourn for a very short time and then choose to stop dwelling on the loss and move forward. Others will surround themselves with reminders of the loss and find comfort in remembering all the good times shared with the person they have lost. Don’t judge someone for grieving differently than you! No one else can truly understand your pain or your joy. Proverbs 14:10 Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy.
- Don’t allow yourself to wallow in grief forever! That’s unbiblical and a plan of the enemy to oppress you! God does not intend for his children to stay stuck in perpetual grief. He desires to heal our broken hearts and guide us back into a place of peace, and yes, even joy. Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
- Ask God to reveal the new plans he has for you in this new season, and then boldly follow his promptings because you will find fulfillment and joy in doing so. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
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