Today I asked my husband what one thing most husbands really wish their wife would understand. Here is what he said. Most men long for their wife to notice something good about them and to tell them what they see! It could be a positive character quality he displays. It could be the fact that he works hard to provide for the family. It could be a talent he has. It could be the way you notice him submitting himself to God.
According to my husband, men desperately need this validation because they feel like a failure much of the time. In fact, my husband described men as being a bit like dry bones in a desert, in desperate need of water. Your words can provide water for those dry bones and breathe life back into your man! Proverbs 16:24 puts it this way, “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”
Will you commit to finding something to affirm about your husband every day for the next 7 days? Will you commit to actually telling him about the good you see? He will soak up those words like a sponge, and it will bring life back into the dry bones of his spirit.
Sometimes, it’s so hard to stay in the battle for your marriage. Sometimes, we get weary. Often, we wonder why we should put in the hard work when no one even notices. Well, let me remind you that there is someone who notices all your hard work, and you have a reward coming. In fact, Jesus talks about “treasures” we can receive in heaven.
In the book of Isaiah, God reveals what lies in store for us when we get to heaven…jewels!!! 🙂 He says in Isaiah 54:11-12, “I will rebuild you with stones of turquoise, your foundations with lapis lazuli. I will make your battlements of rubies, your gates of sparkling jewels, and all your walls of precious stones.” And, in Matthew 16:27 Jesus says “For the Son of Man is going to come in his Father’s glory with his angels, and then he will reward each person according to what they have done.”
How do we make sure we have rewards waiting for us in heaven? During his time on earth, Jesus spoke a lot about receiving a reward in heaven by doing good and righteous things, especially when no one on earth notices! Interesting. This means God sees and cares about the hard work you are putting into your marriage. He will reward you for your acts of kindness, patience, and love toward your husband, even if nobody else notices. He will reward you some day for the way you persevere during rough patches in your marriage instead of giving up. There is a reward coming someday, and it will be beautiful.
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