You probably think I’m going to give fashion advice, but you would be incorrect. I’m certainly no fashionista! The kind of “clothing” I’m talking about is not material. It’s our attitude, character and behavior. The Bible has a lot to say about how we “clothe” ourselves in that regard!
Colossians 3:18 tells us what we should put on every morning: “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Wow! Think about how attractive you would be to your husband (and your children, and your friends, and your mother-in-law and your co-workers) if you were to put on these qualities every morning as you start your day.
Think about it. How would your marriage be changed if you decided to be gentle and humble and kind and compassionate toward your husband? I bet he would truly look forward to coming home to you each night! Even if you need to broach tough subjects with your husband, he will be much more likely to listen if you clothe yourself with humility and gentleness and compassion. Try it. Humility…compassion…gentleness…kindness. These are fashion accessories that never go out of style!
The thrill I’m talking about is that little rush women get when we draw the attention of a man. It feels SO good! This all completely fine as long as the man is your husband, but often we go out in public dressed in such a way that other men are tempted to lust over our bodies.
When we wear skin tight clothes, cleavage-displaying shirts, extremely short skirts or midriff-baring tops, we are leading other men downhill. The attention might feel good, but do you really want to lead these men into the sin of lust? In Luke 17:1 Jesus said to his disciples: “Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come.” Also, 1 Corinthians 10:32 says “Do not cause anyone to stumble“.
Let’s pledge to dress modestly instead of provocatively around our male co-workers, men at the store, and men at church. Let’s not be the downfall of the men around us. Think of it this way. Would you like it if another woman was dressing provocatively in front of your husband? Be kind to your girlfriends who are married. Don’t be the cause of their husbands being tempted by lust!
Before you slam me, please understand that I’m not advocating defying the government order to wear a face mask during the pandemic. I’m talking about the invisible “mask” that many of us wear around others, in order to keep them from truly knowing us!
Have you ever felt trapped in a dysfunctional part of your marriage? Do you struggle with feeling hopeless about something in your marriage? Well, over the years, I’ve learned that I begin to break free from that hopelessness and oppression when I rip off my “mask” and drag the problem into the light! Here’s what I mean by that. I mean doing something extremely courageous by revealing the problem to a godly friend or counselor. This means, not only revealing what your husband is doing, but also bravely revealing your own part in the dysfunction.
Proverbs 28:13 says this: “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” This is a wonderful verse to live by! You will most likely find that as you begin to drop your “everything is just fine at our house” mask, that other women will begin dropping their masks as well. You will find it comforting to realize you’re not the only one struggling with issues.
You will also find that dropping the mask means you will be more open to receiving godly wisdom and direction. Instead of pretending that everything’s great, you’ll be in a position for God to speak counsel into your life, through both the Bible and wise people. This doesn’t mean you go around telling everyone about your husband’s faults! It means getting real with a few trusted, wise, godly women or a trained counselor who can help you apply Biblical principles to your marriage challenges. You will also receive encouragement, prayer support, and hope in the process!