If you want husband to pursue you

There’s something inside of most every woman that instinctively desires to be pursued by a man.  That desire starts very early and, for many women, culminates with a wedding proposal!  Typically, this is one of the most amazing and thrilling moments of a woman’s life!  Unfortunately, for many women, their husband stops pursuing their heart a few months or years into the marriage.  However, that desire to be pursued does not go away!  What is a wife to do?

I’ve found that one of the things that keeps my husband’s heart drawn toward me is something so very simple….flirting with him!  You might be rolling your eyes right now, but have you tried flirting with your husband recently?  It is very powerful!  Try winking at him, or being playfully sassy with him, or pinching his tush, or giving him an unexpected passionate kiss and then walking away.  You may be very surprised at the results!  Likely, he will be drawn to you like a moth to a flame.  He will pursue you!  The added bonus is that your flirty, sassy, playfulness will have him thinking about you the next day at work. Hah!  Just what your heart desired!

If you need a little Biblical inspiration for flirting, try reading the short book in the Bible called Song of Songs.  The bride has a master’s degree in flirting!!  Here are just the first few sentences of that book as the bride begins speaking. Songs of Songs 1:2-4   Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you! Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.

No longer just roommates!

I assume every wife wants a marriage that is strong and fulfilling.  Certainly, every wife desires a marriage where she feels bonded and emotionally connected with her husband.  I would imagine literally every wife wants to feel passionate love toward her husband and sense that he has the same passionate love for her.  But here’s what I know.  If a wife does not nurture her marriage and be diligent in creating time for bonding, her marriage will likely wither on the vine.  The passion and “in love” feeling will slowly fade away and be replaced by more of a roommate mentality.  Let this not be so for your marriage!

You will only have a strong and passionate marriage if you are diligent and intentional about setting aside time to connect with your husband.  One of the most important ways to connect is in the bedroom!  A husband who senses that his wife is eager to make love to him will be drawn to his wife and even intoxicated by his wife!  Listen to what the Bible tells husbands in Proverbs 5:18-19  May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

Ladies, let’s be diligent in carving out time to bring some romance and bonding into our marriages.  I know you are a busy woman, but we make time for the things that we think are necessary and important.  Your marriage is important! 

Could your marriage use this medicine?

All work and no play make Jack and Jill….grumpy.  Could this be the case for you and your husband?  Most American couples are way too busy.  We’re working exhausting hours outside the home to make more money.  We’re running the kids to 12 different activities so that they have a chance to “excel” in something.  We’re throwing dinner together while doing laundry and helping the kids with algebra homework.  We’re running on empty and then we wonder why we’re grumpy!  Duh!  We need to give ourselves permission for a mental time-out.

When is the last time you and your husband let the house chores wait and decided to watch a funny movie?  When is the last time you guys invited some couples over for “game night”?  You need to give yourself permission to play every once and awhile.  Your brain and your body need a rest.  You need to have fun and spend some time laughing.  Proverbs 17:22 says “A cheerful heart is good medicine“.   Maybe your marriage needs a spoonful of this medicine…the medicine called fun and laughter.  It’s a great antidote for grumpiness.  🙂