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Are you intoxicating to your hubby?

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My question for you today has to do with the way you kiss your husband!!  Do you kiss him in a way that communicates to him that he is wanted and desired?  If so, you are a wise woman who is breathing life into her marriage.  On the other hand, do you kiss your husband reluctantly or in a passionless way?  If so, you could be contributing to the slow death of your marriage.

Your husband needs to feel desired by you.  He wants to be your sexual hero.  Your response to his kisses tells your man a lot.  When you press into the kiss with passion, he feels wanted and becomes a more confident man.  The bride in the Song of Songs understood this.  She made sure her groom knew how much she loved his kisses.  In Song of Songs 1:2 she says “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth for your love is more delightful than wine.”

So, this week I challenge you to kiss your husband deeply, as in more than one second!!  Press into the kiss with passion.  Not only will this be a blessing to him, but I bet you will reap some benefits as well.  As he revels in your love, he will likely be more attentive toward you. 🙂   In fact, you might want to intoxicate him with your love, as the Bible mentions in Proverbs 5:18-19.  A husband who is intoxicated with his wife does not stray!

If want husband to pursue you again

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There’s something inside of most every woman that instinctively desires to be pursued by a man. That desire starts very early and, for many women, culminates with a wedding proposal! Typically, this is one of the most amazing and thrilling moments of a woman’s life! Unfortunately, for many women, their husband stops pursuing their heart a few months or years into the marriage. However, that desire to be pursued does not go away! What is a wife to do?


I’ve found that one of the things that keeps my husband’s heart drawn toward me is something so very simple….flirting with him! You might be rolling your eyes right now, but have you tried flirting with your husband recently? It is very powerful! Try winking at him, or being playfully sassy with him, or pinching his tush, or giving him an unexpected passionate kiss and then walking away. You may be very surprised at the results! Likely, he will be drawn to you like a moth to a flame. He will pursue you! The added bonus is that your flirty, sassy, playfulness will have him thinking about you the next day at work. Hah! Just what your heart desired!


If you need a little Biblical inspiration for flirting, try reading the short book in the Bible called Song of Songs. The bride has a master’s degree in flirting!! Here are just the first few sentences of that book as the bride begins speaking. Songs of Songs 1:2-4 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you! Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.

Easy way to keep hubby attracted

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Won’t your husband be surprised when you….flirt with him?! It will be a pleasant surprise, I’m sure! C’mon ladies. Why do we greet our children, our dog, our cat, or our gerbil with more excitement than we greet our husband? Why are we more concerned with getting our girlfriends to really like us than our own husbands? Did we even notice the slow and subtle decline of affection and flirtation in our marriage?

Let’s start revving up the romance and excitement of our marriages once again. Maybe we should take a clue from the bride in the Bible’s Song of Songs. For instance, in chapter 7, she flirts with her man and tells him what she has planned for him sexually! “Come, my lover, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded….there will I give you my love.”

Start flirting with your husband, and do it at least once every day. It could be a pinch on his tush, or a playful lifting of your shoulder, or a sassy smile that says I’m looking forward to being intimate with you later, or even a wink at him across the lobby at church. The simple act of flirting with your husband on a regular basis will help to rekindle romance, excitement, and his interest in you! What do you have to lose?