Do you continue to experience problems in your marriage or other significant relationships?  I know it’s tempting to think it’s all the other person’s fault, but I have to ask you this question.  Is it possible that one of your own behavior patterns is contributing to the problems in that relationship?   Let me ask the question another way.  Are you continuing on with your old dysfunctional way of operating in relationships, expecting different results?  That’s the definition of insanity?  If the way you’ve been doing things in relationships hasn’t yielded great results, maybe it’s time to try a new way!  Listen to God’s blunt advice to us in Proverbs 26:11 As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly.  Let’s not be dogs returning to vomit!  Let us not be fools who keep repeating their folly.

We all tend to have a dysfunctional pattern or two!  It’s easy to see the other person’s defects and flawed patterns of behavior, but it’s much more difficult to recognize our own.  Maybe it’s time to ask God if there is any behavioral pattern of yours that could use attention and change.  For instance, if you’re a conflict avoider, and if you keep stuffing your resentment under the rug (hoping that it will just go away), maybe God is asking you to consider dealing with issues in the relationship in a more direct way.  If you have had issues with anger in relationships, anger that has caused destruction, maybe God is saying it’s time to see a counselor to get to the root of your anger issues so that you don’t continue blowing up your relationships.

Sit with God and ask Him if there is an old pattern of operating in relationships that would benefit from a makeover.  Then ask Him to give you the courage and wisdom to chart a new path.

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