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Simple way to show him respect

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If you’re a wife and a mom….life can get pretty busy! If you’re a wife and mom and you work outside the home, well then life can be pretty chaotic and crazy!!


Sometimes in that busyness, a wife can get so caught up in work, and chores and children that she unintentionally ignores her husband! So, here’s something I did very intentionally as a wife over the years. When my husband entered the house after work, I tried to remember to actually pivot toward him and make eye contact. I even threw in a smile as an extra bonus! Sometimes, I even took the 3 extra seconds to run over and give him a little kiss.


I know this isn’t rocket science, but a wife is often so intent on her children or cooking or cleaning, that she doesn’t even glance her husband’s way. That leaves him feeling unimportant and disrespected. Remember, respect is a really big deal to men. That’s why God instructs us in Ephesians 5:33, “The wife must respect her husband.”


So, give it a try. Make eye contact with your husband when he comes home from work, and actually, any time he enters a room you’re in. Smile. Make him feel happy to be in the same room with you. He will feel more honored and respected. You will draw his heart to you and strengthen the bond between you.

If want husband to pursue you again

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There’s something inside of most every woman that instinctively desires to be pursued by a man. That desire starts very early and, for many women, culminates with a wedding proposal! Typically, this is one of the most amazing and thrilling moments of a woman’s life! Unfortunately, for many women, their husband stops pursuing their heart a few months or years into the marriage. However, that desire to be pursued does not go away! What is a wife to do?


I’ve found that one of the things that keeps my husband’s heart drawn toward me is something so very simple….flirting with him! You might be rolling your eyes right now, but have you tried flirting with your husband recently? It is very powerful! Try winking at him, or being playfully sassy with him, or pinching his tush, or giving him an unexpected passionate kiss and then walking away. You may be very surprised at the results! Likely, he will be drawn to you like a moth to a flame. He will pursue you! The added bonus is that your flirty, sassy, playfulness will have him thinking about you the next day at work. Hah! Just what your heart desired!


If you need a little Biblical inspiration for flirting, try reading the short book in the Bible called Song of Songs. The bride has a master’s degree in flirting!! Here are just the first few sentences of that book as the bride begins speaking. Songs of Songs 1:2-4 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you! Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.

Perfect gift for your husband

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The perfect gift for your husband…whether it’s Christmas, father’s day, his birthday or your anniversary….is super inexpensive. Give him the gift of respect! The Bible makes it clear that a wife is to respect her husband. This instruction is found in Ephesians 5:33 which simply says “the wife must respect her husband”, and most wives know that a man craves his wife’s respect. However, sometimes it’s hard to figure out how to communicate that respect. It’s especially difficult if your husband isn’t perfect! We naturally gravitate to focusing on what’s wrong with our men as opposed to what’s right.

I’m not saying we should ignore a husband’s blatant sin or destructive patterns. We definitely need to pray about confronting disrespectful, destructive, or immoral patterns of behavior. However, we can’t ONLY focus on his areas of weakness. Our men need to know that we believe in them. They need to know that we notice their strengths too!

A simple way to communicate respect is to voice appreciation for the big and small things your husband does for you and your family. Does he go to work each day? Tell him how much you appreciate his hard work. Does he set aside some time each day to play with the kids? Let him know how much you appreciate that. Does he refrain from stopping at the bar on the way home from work? Tell him how much you appreciate that he comes straight home to his family. A great gift you can give to your husband is your daily appreciation for all he does, and to affirm things that he actually does right! It’s a sign of respect.

By the way, some other simple ways to show respect include, paying attention when he’s talking to you, greeting him with a smile and hug when he comes home, and asking his opinion on how he would like things to go at your home and in your family.

If husband has crazy plans!

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Are you bewildered by the amount of time your husband spends surfing online to check out the latest, fastest motorcycles available, or talking about quitting his job to open a risky new business, or dreaming about buying a huge boat and sailing around the world? Apparently, you’re not alone! Many wives report being frustrated, bewildered, and maybe even scared about their husband’s “crazy” ideas to spend way too much money on a hobby or to take a gigantic risk on some new money-making adventure or wild life-style change. So, what’s a wife to do? Let me give you two thoughts:


1) Since a wife is to show respect to her husband (Ephesians 5:33), avoid the tendency to ridicule his plans, but instead come to him gently and with a true desire to understand how his idea would work. You can simply say, “Tell me more about your idea…” Then, you can ask gentle, respectful follow-up questions, such as, “How are you thinking we would handle the financial part of that idea?” or “Do you have some thoughts on how we would pay our mortgage while your new business is getting started?”


2) Also, ask your husband if he will take the matter to God in prayer to seek God’s guidance on his dreams and plans. By the way, it will be super helpful if you’re humble and ask your husband if he has any concerns about the way that you spend your free time or about the things you tend to focus on. When we are humble, our husbands are much more willing to accept input and gentle correction. Colossians 3:12 says “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”