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Being taken for granted

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I’ve noticed something, both in my marriage to my late husband Raul and my current husband Mark.  I tend to take their small kindnesses and hard work for granted!  I don’t mean to do that.  I don’t intentionally do that, but God has made me aware that I do indeed take my husband for granted instead of noticing and appreciating the little and big things he does.

For instance, for about 10 years, starting on our wedding night, my late husband Raul massaged my feet every single night right before I went to sleep.  I started to take that kindness for granted.  In fact, I remember asking him perhaps 2 or 3 years after we were married, “Why do you like massaging my feet?”  His answer was so interesting.  He said, “I don’t like to do it.  I do it to show my love for you.”  Oh!!  In my pea brain, I thought he did it because he wanted to.  But he did it because he was sacrificing his own interests to be a blessing to me!

Fast forward to my current husband Mark.  He often leaves me little love notes tucked under my computer or in a kitchen drawer or under my jewelry box.  Does he take the time to do that because he likes to do that?  I don’t think so.  He does those little things because he knows I enjoy romance. 

My point is this.  We often take for granted those little, kind acts and even the big things our husbands do.  We don’t stop to think that maybe they are sacrificing what they want to do to do things that make us happy or display love to us.  When your husband works hard for the family, stop taking that for granted!  When he brings you a cup of coffee, don’t take that for granted. No one likes to be taken for granted.  Instead, notice what your husband does for you and be thankful!  Gratitude is nourishing for your marriage, but it also pleases God.  1 Thessalonians 5:18 Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

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Is this challenge a test?

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We’re all going to encounter challenges along life’s journey. Some of you may be in the middle of a marriage crisis. Some of you are facing a health or financial challenge. Or maybe you are in the middle of a really difficult situation with one of your children, or your mother-in-law. It’s so natural in the middle of those challenges to throw up your hands in despair. It’s even tempting to give up on believing that God is good and has a plan to bring something good out of the painful trial.
But have you considered that God may be allowing that trial to test whether your faith is genuine? Psalm 11:5 says, “The Lord tests the righteous…” Maybe God is waiting to see whether you’re only willing to trust Him and obey Him when times are good. Maybe God is asking you stay steady and calm in the middle of the storm as you stubbornly keep your eyes on Him. Maybe God is testing you to see if you truly believe that He is good and will bring something good out of this distressing situation. Afterall, He makes that promise in Romans 8:28.
What will you do during the challenge or trial? What you do, and how you react, reveal what you actually believe about God. Is your faith solid? Is your faith genuine? Can your trust in God withstand the test?

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God sees your distress

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We all go through challenging days…whether in your marriage, with your kids, with finances, at your job, etc. It’s at those times; we tend to feel so alone. We desperately need to know that God notices our distress. We need to know that He is with us and that He cares.

Well, despite what Satan is whispering in your ear…that nobody cares…that you’re all alone…that your broken heart will never get better…the Bible tells a different story! I find so much comfort in these verses:
• The Lord is close to the broken-hearted (Psalm 34:18)
• Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you (Hebrews 13:5)
• You are the God who sees me (Genesis 16:13)
• He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3)
• Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all His benefits—who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion. Psalm 103:2-4

God won’t waste your pain

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No one really embraces heartbreak or suffering.  We usually do everything we can to avoid it, and we often complain to God when He doesn’t put an end to it at our first request.  But maybe he is allowing the suffering for a really good reason.  Maybe He has purpose even when he allows us to experience disappointment or even heartbreak.

I think of several stories from the Bible.  Joseph’s story in Genesis, chapters 37-50, is a prime example.  Even though Joseph endured great suffering for many years as he wrongly spent time in prison, God had a masterful plan he was executing behind the scenes….a plan that would involve Joseph rising to great power in Egypt and helping his family gain food during a famine in Israel.  I also think of the great apostles Peter and Paul.  They were beaten and thrown into prison, but God later miraculously freed them from prison and their story inspired many to follow Christ.

The Bible reveals that there is purpose in suffering and heartbreak.  Romans 5:3-5 says “…we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.”   So, perhaps instead of feeling sorry for ourselves or feeling anger toward God, maybe you and I should choose to trust God even in the midst of heartbreak.  Maybe we should ask God to use our suffering to build our character.  God won’t waste your heartbreak.  He will use it to do something beautiful.