All wives are going to be disappointed or frustrated with their husbands from time to time. That’s normal. It’s how a wife voices her disappointment or anger that can become the problem.
I had a front row seat for this the other day. A wife had allowed a multitude of disappointments to stack up and when she could contain the building lava dome inside her no longer, she blew her top and spewed out ALL her grievances at once. It was too much for her husband to take in at the same time, and I watched him shut down and withdraw emotionally.
The lesson became clear to me. Pick your battles wisely. No one, especially a man, wants to hear a long list of grievances and frustrations all at once. It’s too much to handle! He will likely either shut down or push back aggressively. Neither is a good option!
The wise and appreciated wife decides to stick to one issue at a time. She lets some of the little frustrations go. She is patient as she works through major issues, one at a time.
These 2 Bible verses could be instructive for all of us wives. Proverbs 10:19 Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut. Proverbs 25:15 With patience a ruler can be persuaded.
The Appreciated Wife 