Since we all know what to expect with each season of the calendar year, we can prepare ahead. However, when it comes to the seasons of a marriage, most of us are completely ignorant! In our ignorance, we are easily caught off guard. We haven’t adequately prepared. So, let’s be intentional about preparing for each season. As Proverbs 21:5 says, “The plans of the diligent lead to profit…”
So, let me offer a little insight into the seasons of a marriage, now that I’ve seen some seasons come and go 🙂 The first season is an exciting sprint to the altar. We are giddy with excitement and anticipation. As a bride, we are the center of attention. The world revolves around us. We feel like the princess in a fairy tale. We love this season. It feels like summer, when everything is in full bloom and the sun warms your skin.
However, once we return from the honeymoon, and life goes back to “normal”, we can feel let down. It’s not all about me anymore! Often, husbands feel like they’ve won the prize and get to relax now. Sometimes the romance falls away. We plug along, but it’s beginning to feel like fall. The leaves are falling off the trees. If we don’t pay attention, our marriage can become stripped of its vitality.
Then, children enter the picture. We’re so excited, just like we enjoy the first snowfall of the winter. It’s beautiful. Sometimes this “winter season” is wonderful, but often we pay too much attention to the children and little or no attention to our marriage during this time. If we don’t intentionally nurture our marriage, Satan sneaks in to cause trouble just like a cold draft sneaks under a poorly sealed door.
Ah, but then there’s spring. If we’ve made it through those challenging winter months, and if we’ve been nurturing the relationship with our husband, our marriage begins to really bloom again! The kids are growing up or are already out on their own, and you have some free time available. You now have time for shared hobbies, shared adventures, shared pursuit of ministry opportunities, shared smiles with the grandchildren. Spring is a wonderful reward for paying attention to your marriage during the other seasons. It might include a little rain now and then, but hey, the rain helps bring new life.