I don’t know about you, but sometimes I get in a poopy mood (yes, I just used the highly technical term “poopy”!) when I do something sacrificial for my husband and he doesn’t even seem to notice. For me, even though both my husband and I work full-time in ministry, I decided that, for a while, I would do all the household cleaning chores so that my husband would be freed up to serve God even more. I did this for a several month stretch last year.
Did I enjoy vacuuming, dusting, cleaning toilets? No, I did not. Did I sometimes feel grumpy when I cleaned the house after already working a full day? Yes, I did. But then I thought, “well, at least my husband will sing my praises when he gets home and notices all I’ve done”. However, even though I subtly pointed out to him what I had done, much to my shock, sometimes he didn’t say anything at all. What!?!
It’s at that time that God graciously reminded me that He noticed all I had done and he was pleased. I know that God is pleased whenever I serve my husband because God instructs us in Matthew 9:35 that “Anyone who wants to be first must be the very last, and the servant of all.”
God always notices what we’re doing even when no one else sees it! In Matthew 6:4, the Bible reminds us that “your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” Let’s take heart that we are pleasing the “right” man when we serve our husbands sacrificially. That right man is Jesus.
Sometimes, it’s so hard to stay in the battle for your marriage. Sometimes, we get weary. Often, we wonder why we should put in the hard work when no one even notices. Well, let me remind you that there is someone who notices all your hard work, and you have a reward coming. In fact, Jesus talks about “treasures” we can receive in heaven.
In the book of Isaiah, God reveals what lies in store for us when we get to heaven…jewels!!! 🙂 He says in Isaiah 54:11-12, “I will rebuild you with stones of turquoise, your foundations with lapis lazuli. I will make your battlements of rubies, your gates of sparkling jewels, and all your walls of precious stones.” And, in Matthew 16:27 Jesus says “For the Son of Man is going to come in his Father’s glory with his angels, and then he will reward each person according to what they have done.”
How do we make sure we have rewards waiting for us in heaven? During his time on earth, Jesus spoke a lot about receiving a reward in heaven by doing good and righteous things, especially when no one on earth notices! Interesting. This means God sees and cares about the hard work you are putting into your marriage. He will reward you for your acts of kindness, patience, and love toward your husband, even if nobody else notices. He will reward you some day for the way you persevere during rough patches in your marriage instead of giving up. There is a reward coming someday, and it will be beautiful.
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