At the risk of you thinking I’m totally looney, may I suggest that you talk with your husband about clear boundaries regarding your female friends? In other words, he should not be a close “friend” of any of your own girlfriends! I know this might seem old-fashioned or even ridiculous, but many affairs start out with a husband “just talking” with another woman. We need to be careful and alert to the schemes of the enemy!
1 Peter 5:8 says “Be alert and of sober-mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” So, be alert to the enemy’s scheme to get your husband emotionally entangled with one of your friends. He should not spend time with her without you. He should not even be spending time on the phone with her giving advice or listening to her woes. Without him intending to do so, he will slowly find himself developing an emotional bond with your friend, and she will start bonding with him. Danger lies ahead!
When we first pledge our love to each other on our wedding day, we never think either one of us could possibly end up having an affair years later. Tragically, it happens quite frequently, and even among Christian couples. We can’t be ignorant of Satan’s mission revealed by Jesus in John 10:10 where He says Satan is out to “kill, steal, and destroy”. Satan would like nothing better than to rip apart your marriage. He is always plotting ways to get you or your spouse connected with someone of the opposite sex. That’s why we have to be vigilant from day one!
James 4:7 advises us…”Submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” One of the ways we can resist the devil’s schemes to destroy our marriages is to talk with our husbands about rules we will both follow relating to the opposite sex. Agree that you will never spend time alone with another man and your husband will never spend time alone with another woman. If your job requires you to be in a one-on-one meeting with someone of the opposite sex, agree that the door will always be left open. Agree that you will never share anything personal about your marriage with a member of the opposite sex. If at all possible, agree to never work as a two-person team with a member of the opposite sex on a project or at your job. That feeling of being a “team” is extremely bonding!
Safeguard your marriage. You may think you don’t need all these strict rules, but I know from personal experience that you do. Many solid Christians have fallen into Satan’s trap by failing to follow these safeguards. Don’t let your marriage be another notch in the devil’s belt.
It’s happened yet again. Another wife almost blew up her marriage, and it all started with Facebook. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not against Facebook. I love keeping in touch with what’s happening in the lives of my friends and family through Facebook posts. However, the devil takes warped delight in taking something good and turning it into something disastrous.
We need to be wise to his schemes to kill our marriages! Here’s what the scheme looks like: You become curious about that old boyfriend or man from your past, so you look him up on Facebook. It seems totally innocent. You’re just curious. Then you pop him a little message asking how he’s doing. He responds. You guys reminisce about shared experiences in the past. You begin bonding emotionally. Then ever so slowly and slyly, Satan starts to reel you in. Soon, you begin believing that he’s your true soul mate, and an affair is just a step away! This is happening every day across America! One recent post on a divorce website noted that 20% of all divorce petitions contain the word “Facebook”.
Don’t let this happen to you. As wives, we must be aware of Satan’s schemes and we must fight against the temptation to connect with any man on Facebook. 1 Peter 5:8-9 says, “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith…” Please don’t shake off this warning. Fight against the urge to connect with men from your past on Facebook!