1 Peter 3:4 instructs wives to have a gentle, quiet spirit. Hmmm. Why do so many wives rebel against that idea? Well, I think it boils down to 2 things.
First, some wives fear that being quiet and gentle means they’re going to be controlled by their husband or become a weak doormat kind of wife! Personally, in my marriage to Raul, I feared being controlled. It’s because I was hurt by people who controlled me when I was young. So, I rebelled at anything that even smelled like control! But here’s what both you and I need to know. Just because we allow our husbands to lead, does not mean that we are weak and have no voice. It is something we get to CHOOSE to do to bring honor to God and honor to our husbands. Also, you are not a doormat because you DO get to speak up respectfully and establish boundaries if your husband is sinning against you. (Matthew 18:15-17)
Second, some wives fear that if they strive for a gentle, quiet spirit that they’re going to have to change their personality! But that’s just not true! You can still be playful, joyful, and flirty with your husband. You just don’t yell at him, argue with him about everything, boss him around, and demand your own way all the time. 🙂