Some of you have had a rough couple of months or couple of years in your marriage. You may have a mountain-size load of resentment toward your husband. Perhaps your husband also holds a gigantic amount of resentment toward you. If this is you….if you find yourself in the pit of despair regarding your marriage, I want to encourage you to blow up that marriage. Yep. You heard me right. Blow up your marriage in order to start fresh and build a better one, with the same husband!
Sometimes, we just need to start over when something in our lives has gone terribly wrong. However, our first impulse is to throw out the whole thing; to discard the thing that has brought heartache and disappointment. But that doesn’t give God any room to work, and that attitude basically lets both your husband and you off the hook in terms of making any changes in how you do relationships. If you toss out your existing marriage, you’ll just bring the same dysfunctional patterns into your next relationship.
So, how about completely resetting your marriage? Listen to what God says in Isaiah 43:18-19 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland”. What if you were to apply those words to your marriage? The devil wants to keep you focused on past hurts. That way you will be forever stuck. Don’t fall for his evil plot against you! Starting today, stop dwelling on the past, sit down with your husband and ask him if he would be willing to start afresh, with BOTH of you putting actual daily effort into blessing the other, serving the other, speaking the other’s love language, and showing care for the other. This attitude shift can accomplish absolutely amazing things!
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