I remember the time a little over a year ago when I realized how much impact a wife’s words have on her husband. I was having a super frustrating day and I was kind of sharp with my husband. He seemed to withdraw emotionally and within moments, he physically removed himself from the room. Hmmm.
Then fast forward to a different day, and I decided to purposely look for something good about my husband and to actually tell him about that “good” that I see in him. The minute I did that, he got a little spring in his step. His entire countenance changed. Interestingly, he also seemed to be even more thoughtful and gentle toward me. It was as if my encouragement and respect made him feel so much better about himself that he now felt secure enough to be kind and loving and patient with others. Wow!
This reminded me of the Lord’s instructions for us to encourage each other. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” We need encouragement, but so do our men! When was the last time you intentionally looked for good qualities in your husband and told him about those things? When was the last time you took note of him taking time to play with the kids, or handling a household chore without being told, or being kind to others?
Let’s commit to building up our guys. They need our steady encouragement, and we’ll also benefit as they begin to feel valued and respected.
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I LOVE THIS DEBBIE.
I TELL MY HUSBAND PETE EVERYDAY HOW HE MOVES MY HEART WHEN HE SPEAKS OF GOD. I ALSO TELL HIM THAT I AM PROUD TO SEE THEE CHANGES OF MEN THAT HE HAS TOUCHED. BUT YES, YOU ARE RIGHT !! OUR HUSBANDS GLOW JUSS LIKE US WHEN WE GET COMPLIMENTS FROM OUR HUSBAND. THANK YOU FOR THEE REMINDER. I WILL CONTINUE TO DO WHAT IS NEEDED TO AS A WIFE, AND BEST FRIEND. GOD BLESS