Have you ever felt trapped in a dysfunctional part of your marriage? Do you struggle with feeling hopeless about something in your marriage? Do you hide your insecurities in general behind a “I’m just fine” mask? Well, over the years, I’ve learned that I begin to break free from that hopelessness and oppression when I drag the problem into the light! Here’s what I mean by that. I mean doing something extremely courageous by revealing the problem, your insecurities or your frustrations to a godly friend or counselor. This means, not only revealing what your husband is doing, but also bravely revealing your own part in any dysfunction.
Proverbs 28:13 says this: “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” This is a wonderful verse to live by! You will most likely find that as you begin to drop your “everything is just fine at our house” mask, that other women will begin dropping their masks as well. You will find it comforting to realize you’re not the only one struggling with issues.
You will also find that dropping the mask means you will be more open to receiving godly wisdom and direction. Instead of pretending that everything’s great, you’ll be in a position for God to speak counsel into your life, through both the Bible and wise people. This doesn’t mean you go around telling everyone about your husband’s faults! It means getting real with a few trusted, wise, godly women or a trained counselor who can help you apply Biblical principles to your marriage challenges. You will also receive encouragement, prayer support, and hope in the process!