Many Christian wives have asked me what they should expect from their husbands. In other words, what is godly behavior for a husband? Well, let’s look at what the Bible indicates about this.
Ephesians 5 includes one of the most comprehensive sets of instructions for husbands. It says in verses 25 through 31… “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Wow! That’s a pretty high standard! Yet God expects husbands to strive to imitate Christ’s selfless love for his bride, the church. My husband isn’t Jesus (lol), and I bet yours isn’t either, but our men are supposed to be seeking to become more like Jesus every day. This means a husband should seek to serve the best interests of his wife and act in ways that indicates he cherishes her!
That being said, NO Christian husband is as perfect as Jesus! Don’t expect your husband to model Christ’s behavior every single minute of every single day. Your husband is human and he WILL make mistakes. He WILL stumble in his attempt to display godly behavior each day. The main thing is that you see him SEEKING to follow and obey the Lord. As believers, we should ALL be seeking to honor and obey the Lord each day.