I was talking with a wife the other day who has endured physical abuse from her husband for years. It began so slowly that it she didn’t realize she was the victim of domestic violence until her injuries had become pretty serious. I was reminded that wives, especially Christian wives, need to be alerted to what actually constitutes physical abuse.
Theses things constitute physical abuse: Punching, slapping, shoving aggressively, kicking, trapping physically (as against a wall), twisting arm painfully, throwing objects at you aggressively, biting, pulling your hair painfully, a pattern of refusing to allow you to sleep, regularly requiring you to work until exhaustion or while sick, tying you up against your will, forcing you to perform sex acts against your will, forcing himself on you sexually against your will, forcing you to use alcohol or drugs, denying you medical care.
If your husband or boyfriend is currently doing any of those above things, call 911 and seek immediate protection at your local domestic violence shelter. If these behaviors are not currently occurring but have occurred fairly recently, you still need help. I strongly urge you to call your local, confidential domestic violence hotline. It’s time for Christian wives to stop excusing or tolerating abuse! The Bible makes it clear that husbands are to treat their wives kindly. 1 Peter 3:7 instructs husbands to be considerate of their wives and to treat them with honor as the weaker vessel. Furthermore, Ephesians 5:11 says “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them”. So, don’t cover up your husband’s or boyfriend’s abuse. He is not your enemy, but he needs to be stopped, both for his own good and for your welfare.