I bet you are checking this out because you think I’m talking about a quality of your husband that is harming your marriage…but I’m not. I’m actually talking about our own tendency to become lazy in terms of putting effort and intentionality into our marriages!
Laziness is kind of like lighting a really long fuse. You don’t really notice anything for the longest time….that is, until the explosion! Many a wife has been burned by this long fuse, ending up with a husband who seeks attention from other women or who even ends up divorcing her. We can’t afford to be sluggards in our marriages! The Bible has lots to say about sluggards. Proverbs 13:4 says “A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.” This can be applied to your marriage! Only when you are diligent in investing in your marriage are you likely to have the kind of marriage you desire.
What can you do to strengthen your marriage? Do you need to get a babysitter and go on more dates with your husband? Do you need to find out his love language and start speaking that language more often? Would your marriage be strengthened if you looked for ways to encourage your husband every day and show him respect? Would your marriage be healthier if you stopped stuffing your feelings of resentment and actually discussed the things that are upsetting you?
Great marriages don’t just happen. They take work. Ask God to show you how to nurture and strengthen your marriage and then…actually do the things He brings to mind!