1 Peter 3:4 instructs wives to have a gentle, quiet spirit. Hmmm. Why do so many of us rebel against that idea? Well, for me, I think it boils down to 2 things.
First, I fear that being quiet and gentle means I’m going to be controlled by my husband or become a weak doormat kind of wife! Personally, I fear being controlled. It’s because I was hurt by people who controlled me when I was young. So, I rebel at anything that even smells like control! But here’s what both you and I need to know. Just because we allow our husbands to lead, does not mean that we are weak and have no voice. It is something we get to CHOOSE to do to bring honor to God and honor to our husbands. Also, I am not a doormat because I DO get to speak up respectfully and establish boundaries if my husband is sinning against me. (Matthew 18:15-17)
Second, I fear that if I strive for a gentle, quiet spirit that I’m going to have to change my personality! But that’s just not true! You can still be playful, joyful, and flirty with your husband. You just don’t yell at him, argue with him about everything, boss him around, and demand your own way all the time. 🙂