One way to attract the heart of your husband

After years of working alongside my husband to counsel and mentor couples in distress, I’ve noticed a common issue.  Even though many of the husbands have greatly disappointed or frustrated their wives, the wives come across as condemning and arrogant.  Ouch!

When a wife is perceived as being arrogant and self-righteous, the husband usually avoids her, becomes passive aggressive, and self-medicates his pain through destructive choices such as alcohol, pornography, or even other women.

What if you were to choose to deal with your frustration and disappointment in a different way?  What if you were to display humility, kindness and love…even when confronting destructive behavior?  One quality that will really endear you to your husband is humility, and it’s Biblical!  Philippians 2:3-4 says “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility, consider others better than yourselves.  Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but the interest of others.”

Catch yourself if you start talking down to your husband or start treating him like he is disgusting or inferior to you.  In that moment, ask God to give you His perspective on your husband.  Ask God to remind you that you’re not perfect either and that you’re both a work in progress…in the master’s hands.

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One thought on “One way to attract the heart of your husband

  1. My sister recently introduced me to your blog and I just wanted to let you know, it’s right on time. I’ve been married for 4 years and I am struggling to be the Christian wife I always dreamed I would be because my husband’s struggles are something I’ve never had to deal with – lack of communication.
    I don’t know how to speak his love language because he won’t articulate what he wants and needs. So I feel like a failure and end up putting up a wall- which just makes it even more difficult for him to push through and communicate. Your blogs are helping me keep perspective while being patient with my husband as he learns to articulate his desires.
    Thank you so much!

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