Unfortunately, there’s a high likelihood that many wives reading this devotional have experienced past sexual abuse, either in childhood or due to a forced sexual situation as an adult woman. I can relate to this myself. I was sexually abused by several men over many years of my childhood. As you probably know, this can cause real problems for you in terms of desiring to be sexually active with your husband. Yet, it’s so vitally important to build a vibrant sex life with your husband. What’s a wife to do?
Here are 5 things that have helped me along my journey:
1) Determine in your heart and mind that you will not let evil steal from you yet again. Evil stole your innocence once before, but decide that you will not cooperate with Satan’s plan to steal the sex life from your marriage.
2) Coach your soul. The psalmist David often talked to his soul and reminded his soul of truth. We can do the same thing. Remind your soul that your husband cares for you….that he will not hurt you…that you are not being forced…that you will actually enjoy loving touch from your husband….that you can relax in your husband’s arms.
3) Ask your husband if he will allow you to be the one who initiates sex. That way, you will not feel like someone is suddenly forcing himself on you. (However, you do need to initiate then!)
4) Ask your husband to progress slowly, giving you plenty of time to truly warm to his touch. In other words, you might need extra time before transitioning from kissing to touching of breasts, etc.
5) Decide not to dwell on the past, but choose to focus on what is good and right and pure in your husband and in your marriage. This is what Philippians 4:8 tells us: “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
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